10 Terrible First Date Mistakes You Can Avoid

Top 10 Dating Mistakes You Need to Avoid

First Dates Can Be Fun!

Have you watched Millionaire Matchmaker? It's a show where a "matchmaker" sets up millionaire men who, it appears, cannot find dates on their own with attractive women.
At first glance, you think, "You've got to be kidding." But watch the show. The funny thing is, you can nearly immediately figure out why they are single. There is typically some glaring flaw that the single millionaire doesn't see in himself. As the viewer, it's easy to see. The dating mistakes men make...
But that's the benefit of NOT being the one on display. It's easy to see the flaws in others, but we live with ourselves. We know why we do the things we do. We have REASONS why we do the things we do.
And sometimes these relationship mistakes are stopping us from getting what we really want.
In this case, Mr. Right.

The Top 10 Dating Mistakes to Avoid on Your First Date...(or many dates, actually)

1. Put Your Cell Away: And don't look at it Everyone is very busy these days and he carved time out of his schedule to give you his attention (and probably buy you a meal). Give him the gift of your full attention. It's incredibly rude to check your texts and voice mails, let alone take a call. It might not seem like it when YOU are the one on the phone, but let him do it to you and trust me, it's going to be irritating.
2. The Ex-Factor: Um. Seems obvious, but you want to at least APPEAR available. If you go on about your ex you do yourself a disservice, actually several. Regardless of how obvious it seems to you that your ex is a jerk and did everything wrong, some of your blame WILL be obvious to the other person. We are all flawed and it's fine once someone knows you enough to give you room for your screw-ups. But a first date is "best foot forward" time. Save the crazy for later. Secondly, it will look like he is still front of mind enough that he is your topic of conversation. Not what the new guy want to think.
3. Eat: Let your appetite be reflective of your appetite. Here's why. Sensuality is wrapped up with lots of things, physicality, flirting, eye contact....food and drink are two on the list. I am NOT saying binge and PROVE you can match him drink for drink. I AM saying, be real. It works in your favor.
4. Drunk = Loss of Respect: Don't think it's "cool". It's the opposite. They MIGHT see you again, but you will never be in the "serious" category you will be in the "lay" category. A first date fumble like that is likely unrecoverable. And don't throw up in his car. Also not hot.
5. Don't Leave Your Brain at Home: Playing dumb is not sexy and adorable. It is dumb. Confidence is sexy. Bright is sexy. Humor is sexy. Oh my god I am so helpless and stupid show me everything because I am so frail is just pathetic. Pathetic is not sexy either. There are better ways to get attention. Be yourself and contribute to the experience. You'll both have a better time.
6. My Children Are My Life: Really? Then stay home. You are not auditioning for mother. You are auditioning for position of  life partner. Let me point out that your kids are in your daily life for at most 20 years. If you are planning on living 80, you may want to pay attention to your significant other. There is no need to explain what the mother/child relationship entails. Everyone's pretty up on that. Going out of your way to say, "Best case scenario, you're coming in second." doesn't feel great to anyone. Leave the kids at home.
7. Be on Time: Waiting is painful. Again, does not look cool, fashionable, or anything good. You know what it looks like? Looks like you're late and can't get your cuss together to be on time. If you're going for the whole flaky vibe, late works.
8. High Maintenance: Not good. What does that mean? It means don't be difficult, rude, demanding. Don't order the most expensive thing on the menu. Don't be disappointed if he takes you for tacos. Don't ask him what kind of car he drives. Do you really want him worrying about whether or not he can afford to take you out again? It's your job to give yourself the lifestyle you want, not his. Don't make him feel the financial burden of YOU on a date! Don't go on about all of the amazing places other men have taken you/things they have bought you/how much $ they made/expensive cars you like and MY GOD don't ask him to buy you anything. Seriously.
9. Nobody Wants to Sex Up Frump Girl/If You're Showing Vag You're Trying too Hard: So there is a lot of gray area in between the black and the white. Let's see...be sexy, for sure. But UNDERSTATED sexy is best. What does that mean? Or better, what does that look like? It looks classy, but fitted, a little short, ABSOLUTELY high heels (this is not a PTA meeting), your BEST makeup including a smokey eye if you can do it right. I means you took care to get ready. It means you FEEL smokin' hot (but not slutty).
10. Let Him Be the MAN: Aggressive and dominant don't work on a first date (unless you're being paid for it, but that's a whole different blog). You might be Ms. Ball-buster career woman at work, and god knows it takes toughness to be a single mother running a household, but you are NOT at work and no one is negotiating their interest rate tonight. Be feminine and let him be masculine. Allow the process to flow naturally. Don't steer it or push it. Don't take the lead in a kiss. Don't ask for a second date or even hint about it (it's not subtle, it's really not). You might offer to pay for your portion of the meal, but only offer once (he will 99% of the time decline), then graciously accept. Be thankful.

Have fun, be yourself, be polite, be thankful. Even if you don't find that amazing spark, you will meet a lot of interesting people in your dating experience and your life will be richer for it. 

Once you get going you might want tips on playing the game. For tips on Sexting, Click HERE. 

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Why Can't I Stop Eating?

Have you ever asked yourself why you can't eat just one potato chip, especially one buffalo wing flavored potato chip dipped in creamy ranch dip? What do they put in these foods--crack?

Well, yes, sort of, according to David Kessler in his new book "The End of Overeating: Taking Control of the Insatiable American Appetite." Kessler, a former pediatrician who was FDA Commissioner under Presidents Bush (the father) and Clinton, presents some pretty compelling research showing that food manufacturers and chain restaurants know exactly what's going to make you want to eat--and eat, and eat, and eat, and eat.

There are a few things causing this epidemic of overeating: Chemically-enhanced food that tastes good because it's high in fat, sugar, and salt; food so processed it's almost pre-chewed; food that's extremely cheap, because real ingredients, like eggs, sugar, butter, and natural flavorings have been replaced by low-cost synthetic ingredients; huge portions that are training us to eat (and expect) more; and 24-hour availability, so you can get that Panda Express Orange Chicken or those Tyson Chicken Cordon Bleu Any'tisers whenever the craving strikes.

What's the cure?

1. Stop snacking. Really. It's not that hard, and you'll see the benefits fast. First, you'll actually be hungry once meal time rolls around, which makes the food so much more enjoyable. Second, you will lose weight, and you'll do it without have to go on a diet. Snacking is a modern phenomenon, so just think of this as returning to your roots. (If you must snack, try this healthy yogurt option with granola, tropical fruit, and crystallized ginger.)

2. Go cold turkey on processed foods. You'll lose your taste for them in a matter of days. Since you're not snacking any more, you don't need chips and crackers. Bake your own cookies--it's fun, and you'll know what goes into them. Keep ice cream as an occasional treat. Give up cold cereal, even the kind labeled healthy. It's not actually that healthy. Oats are healthy. Eggs are healthy. Even bacon is healthy, in moderation.

3. Skip the chain restaurants. Read Kessler's book if you need to know why. Just realize that what you're ordering is engineered to make you eat like your belly is a bottomless pit. The wiser choice: Go out less frequently to a real restaurant where there's a chef in the kitchen who cooks real food with real ingredients, rather than assembling pre-fab dishes from frozen components.

New Wayne Dyer Book- Excuses Begone!

Excuses Begone! is the HOT new book just released May 26, 2009 written by Dr. Wayne Dyer. Dr. Dyer is an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development. He is the author of more than 30 books, has created numerous audio programs and videos, and has appeared on thousands of television and radio shows. Wayne holds a doctorate in educational counseling from Wayne State University and was an associate professor at St. John’s University in New York.Within the pages of this transformational book, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer reveals how to change the self-defeating thinking patterns that have prevented you from living at the highest levels of success, happiness, and health. Even though you may know what to think, actually changing those thinking habits that have been with you since childhood might be somewhat challenging.

If I changed, it would create family dramas . . . I’m too old or too young . . . I’m far too busy and tired . . . I can’t afford the things I truly want . . . It would be very difficult for me to do things differently . . . and I’ve always been this way . . . may all seem to be true, but they’re in fact just excuses. So the business of modifying habituated thinking patterns really comes down to tossing out the same tired old excuses and examining your beliefs in a new and truthful light.

In this groundbreaking work, Wayne presents a compendium of conscious and subconscious crutches employed by virtually everyone, along with ways to cast them aside once and for all. You’ll learn to apply specific questions to any excuse, and then proceed through the steps of a new paradigm. The old, habituated ways of thinking will melt away as you experience the absurdity of hanging on to them.

You’ll ultimately realize that there are no excuses worth defending, ever, even if they’ve always been part of your life—and the joy of releasing them will resonate throughout your very being. When you eliminate the need to explain your shortcomings or failures, you’ll awaken to the life of your dreams.

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Dr Wayne Dyer Quotes:

A mind at peace, a mind centered and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the universe.

Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.

Anything you really want, you can attain, if you really go after it.

Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.

Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul.

Conflict cannot survive without your participation.

Deficiency motivation doesn't work. It will lead to a life-long pursuit of try to fix me. Learn to appreciate what you have and where and who you are.

Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.

Everything in the universe has a purpose. Indeed, the invisible intelligence that flows through everything in a purposeful fashion is also flowing through you.

Everything is perfect in the universe - even your desire to improve it.

Everything you are against weakens you. Everything you are for empowers you.

Freedom means you are unobstructed in living your life as you choose. Anything less is a form of slavery.

Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.

How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.

I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside.

I think and that is all that I am.

If you are living out of a sense of obligation you are slave.

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.

It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there's nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.

100 Calorie Cocktails! New for Summer-SkinnyTini!

Calories range dramatically from cocktail to cocktail! Here are a few delicious drink suggestions to keep you on the light side.

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MOJITO (160 calories-15g sugar) vs. LONG ISLAND ICED TEA (700 calories-40g sugar) Skip the LIT and go for a Mojito. You’ll save 520 calories. COSMOPOLITAN (150 calories-12g sugar) VS. MARGARITA (500 calories-32g sugar) The typical Margarita is loaded with calories and sugar due to the sweet & sour mix. Try Baja Bob's Sugar Free Margarita Mix! He's getting rave reviews. Make your margarita low cal with Bob. BLOODY MARY (150 calories-10g sugar) vs. PINA COLADA (625 calories-75g sugar) Trade the sugary sweetness of the Pina Colada for the spice of the Bloody Mary and save 475 calories.

100 Calorie Cocktail

100 Calorie Sangria Sparkler Recipe

Make your happy hour healthier with this refreshing, low-calorie cocktail. Sharing a pitcher of sangria with friends is a great way to kick off summer. Sliced oranges are a traditional addition to this refreshing Spanish beverage. With their bright red flesh, blood oranges give extra impact.

Prep: 10 minutes
Chill: 2 hours
Makes: 12 servings

750-milliliter bottle dry red wine
1 cup light orange juice
1/4 cup brandy or cognac
1/4 cup orange liqueur
2 tablespoons sugar
2 medium oranges, sliced
2 cups club soda, chilled
Crushed ice and/or orange peel curls (optional)

1. In a large pitcher, combine wine, orange juice, brandy, orange liqueur, sugar, and orange slices. Chill at least 2 hours. Add club soda before serving. Serve over crushed ice and/or with orange peel curls, if desired. Nutrition Information per serving: 100 calories, 0g protein, 9g carbohydrate, 0g fat (0g saturated), 0g fiber

SkinnyTinis- All of the Fun for Half the Calories

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Recipe Book!

This is what the author, Teresa Howes, has to say about it:

How do we maintain or lose weight without giving up small pleasures in life like a night out on the town with the girls or a stiff martini after a long day at the office? That was the question that prompted me to begin looking at alcohol differently. Instead of trying to avoid it, I'd prefer to find ways to modify recipes and habits so I can still enjoy my favorites.

Hence the advent of SkiinnyTinis! I was so proud of my concoctions and revelations that I felt compelled to share them with the rest of the social drinkers who share my struggle. The recipes in this book have been tested, and users have rated them just as tasty as their high-calorie counterparts (if not tastier). The only difference? They have less than half the calories.

Have SkinnyTini's at YOUR Summer Party HERE!

Bethenny Frankel of Bravo's Real Housewives very popular "Skinny Girl" Margarita Recipe HERE!

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